Everything runs in a fast-forward pace (sadly, except for your research progress).
You meet a lot of new people every year intensively during "freshers' week"-
the preparation week for new coming students at the beginning of academic year.
And chances are that you won't see them much after the freshers' week because everyone is so busy with their own things (unless you really make extra efforts to stay in touch or to meet up with someone). Until you realise, you're already at the end of the academic year and most of them are gone-off to everywhere/anywhere in the world.
Year by year, time passes by like that.
It is indeed a very scary feeling-like life just disappear without you noticing how fast it goes.
Just like the Corpus clock-the time monster eats away your time, second by second, non-stop.
So here I am, a month after freshers' week. I asked myself how many new acquaintances I made this year and how many out of them I actually have deeper connection with and possibly develop friendship out of it. First-acquaintances-thanks to facebook that I can actually count-probably 20. But the tricky one-friendship-I don't know, I really don't.
Due to circumstances I'm in this year, I probably won't be able to put in as much as I used to. What I mean by the circumstances I'm in is that I'm at the second year of my PhD research-collecting data, going everywhere running like a bee. On top of that,I'm going away for part of my fieldwork in December for two month, so I really don't know how much more effort/time I can put to social life. You can't stick your fingers into every pie, can you? We only have very limited time-24 hours a day- and that much energy to use. So I just remind myself to be realistic.
It's not necessarily a bad thing, to be honest. This can actually help you recognise those people who truly care about you and be there for you when you need them and vise versa. No matter how busy one is, one can always make time for important people. Just like what my friend Mark have said: you don't just "have" time, you "make" time. You know who makes time for you and you make time for whom. Those are your true friends who stay by you, no matter how things changes or how time flies.
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